One tip I love to give to men is to spend a lot of time on breast massage.

The reason for this is that the breasts is a positive pole in a woman’s sexuality. By playing attention on this area, her heart opens.

This allows her energy to run down her body to her pussy and she  starts to get turned on.

Most men rush much too fast to the pussy and most women hate this.

Breast Massage Benefits Tip 1

So the best breast massage benefit tip is spending at least 10 minutes on the play. Touch, kiss, blow on and lick her breasts till she is wet. The benefit is that she will really wantyou!

Breast Massage Benefits Tip 2

To really show your love to your partner, really love her breasts. Really enjoy touching the softness and feminity of her breasts and resonsive nipples. If you do this she will feel love and the benefit is that she will be much more willing to go wild in sex and become much more orgasmic. This is the breast massage benefit that is out of this world.

After all, this is what most men really desire.

The more a woman can be totally present in the feelings and sensations of her breasts, the more she will know her exquisite softness, femininity and power. This also allows her to really know herself as love and to overflow with universal love to all around her.

As a man, I just find my lover in her feminine to be so beautiful, soft, exquisite and desirable. This allows my masculine to be effortlessly activated and the resulting polarity leads to amazing and powerful sex.

Unfortunately, some women operate from a more masculine energy and have lost touch with their deep feminine essence. Many women have been hurt in the past and have responded to this by tending to protect themselves by loosing touch with their deep feminine and have tended to operate out of a more safe male energy.

Unfortunately, this leads to her heart being closed and it results in shallow relationships and unfulfilling sex. She will have a tendency to let work dominate her life, shopping, children and to be pretty disconnected to her body. She probably will not want to make love that much and have trouble really connecting in sex.

One simple way to return to the feminine essence for any woman is to focus on the breast area. Opening her heart will allow delicate sensations of love and energy to flow right throughout her body.

“Many different kinds of orgasm will follow from the breasts being lavishly included in lovemaking. Naturally this involves man – how he caresses and touches the breasts – but only to a certain extent. At the deepest level it involves a woman’s interest in herself as an expression of the feminine.”

Diana Richardson, Tantric Orgasm for Women

One way for any woman to become more feminine in essence is from breast massage during meditation.

When you are lying down on your back, place your hands just under the breasts so they are lightly cupped.

Lie down on your back with the spine straight, shoulders relaxed, feet slightly apart and a small pillow under the head so the neck is straight and comfortable.

Now take slow and deep breaths from your belly. Really relax on the out breath and have an open mouth. Make some sighing sounds on the out breath and really let go.

Take your attention to your breasts and their sensations and feeling, Imagine energy filling your breasts with each breath. Really feel and be totally in your breasts.

Fall into your breasts, surrender into your breasts, melt into your breasts. Allow the breast energy to fill your heart with light and love.

Now allow the love and energy to move throughout your body. One can even imagine the energy flowing out on the out breath and filling the room or even the whole world.

Most men I see in my private sexuality practice really need to feel how this type of magic touch will really turn on their lover.

I was with a couple about a week ago, teaching them erotic massage. I asked the woman who was naked, to touch her man with her breasts so she really enjoyed the feelings of moving her breasts over his body and penis.

She actually found this simple instruction quite difficult as she was so in the habit of trying to give him pleasure with her touch.

Now, most men focus on what their lover is feeling and whether their touch is turning their lover on. They focus on whether SHE is enjoying the touch.

Now this is what most sex guides teach, right guys?

Actually I call this type of touch, turn off touch!

I leant a new way to touching in one of my first Tantra courses many years ago

You could call it present touch or pleasure touch.

This means you touch your lover for YOUR pleasure and really be in your body enjoying how this feels good to YOU.

It seems a contradiction, but that type of touch will really feel more erotic and sensual for your lover.

Read that again.

If you are a man, when you touch her with your attention on YOUR pleasure, and it feeling good in YOUR body, it is THAT quality of touch that feels best to HER.

We discussed with my client about changing her focus in her touch to her pleasure. She raised her belief that doing this was selfish.

I just got her to try this with her partner, and as soon as she did this, he really responded.

I then asked her to use her nipples on the soul of his feet and really enjoy the nipple stimulation this provided. Her man’s erection became rock hard!

So the next time you are with your partner, invite them to do a simple sexuality exercise.

If you are a man, tell her you are going to touch the inside of her arm from fingers to elbow. Now touch on trying to give HER pleasure and to turn her on.

Now practice pleasure touch. Stroke her arm with your full attention on making it feel good for you. Take in the pleasure from the feelings and sensations under your fingers.

Now, ask her which type of touch felt best.

I have actually done this exercise on a first date and found this really started a strong sexual vibe running.

So why does this type of touch work?

When a man touches for his pleasure, he is in his body and not his thoughts or head.

Most women are very sensitive to this, and call the sexual experience of this man as being present.

When a man is more present and in his pleasure, he does not want to change his lover in anyway. Woman responses by relaxing and this actually feels so much better.

Once you have practiced this type of touch on the arms, try it on the breasts the next time you make love. Really enjoy the touch on the softness and femininity of your lover’s breasts.

I got more sexuality exercises in my report, sexual ecstasy in 14 days.

There are a few common mistakes that most men make, so avoiding these can help you claim that “great in bed” title.

Mistake #1: Making Jokes

Most jokes in the bedroom only cover up your insecurities, and they’re not really funny—we just laugh to make you feel better and cringe in the inside. Your little jokes when you aren’t rising to the occasion or when you’re feeling self conscious about some extra weight only act as mood killers. Instead, go with the flow and keep focusing on kissing and otherwise pleasing your lady.

Mistake #2: Cutting the Chatter

While jokes and small talk are not exactly appropriate if you want hot, steamy sex, you shouldn’t be completely silent. Think about how you feel when your girl is moaning for you to keep going or by talking dirty. It’s a total turn-on so talk dirty rather than small talk.

Mistake #3: Heading Out the Door Less than Ten Minutes after Unzipping your Pants

I’m not knocking a quickie every once in a while—they can be a lot of fun. However, if “quickie” is your usual, your girl probably isn’t getting the maximum pleasure she needs to call you “amazing” in bed when she’s talking to her girlfriends. Have problems jumping the gun, so to speak? Don’t worry—you can fill time with foreplay before and cuddles after. Give her an orgasm from oral sex before any intercourse.

Mistake #4: Not Knowing the Anatomy

Never heard of the G-spot? Now we have a problem. Before you dive into bed with any girl, make sure you’ve done a little research so that you at least understand her anatomy on a beginner’s level. You don’t have to be a gynecologist, but it helps to have an educational head start.

Mistake #5: Acting Like You’re in a Porno

With porn, it is all about fantasy and perfection. Acting like you’re a porn star or treating your partner like one will just lead to disappointment in the end. I’m not saying that you can’t fulfill your fantasies, but having porn-quality expectations is definitely not a good thing in bed.

* Mistake #6 : Lack of Lube

Not every girl is instantly wet. Don’t take it personally; a lot of things could make it hard for a girl to get wet, even if she is very turned on. Your spit isn’t going to be good enough (trust me, I’ve tried that), so make sure you have some lube by your bed in case you need it.

Oral sex is one of the best ways of getting a woman to orgasm. Many women only have orgasm from oral sex and not from intercourse.

To become an expert in bed you need to be great at giving head.

For some free tips on oral sex here.

Dirty talking is another way to drive a woman into her sexual pleasure.

This allows a man to get into his more masculine energy and this really turns on most women.

Read my free 25 dirty talking phases.

Great sex is your birthright!

Most women need a heart and emotional connections to desire sex. Sex starts 12 hours before foreplay, so give her hugs and kisses during the day.

The neck, inner legs, and the breasts are key hot zones. However, most women love their fingers and toes sucked and massaged as well.

Explore to see what really turns on your lover. Most men do not take enough time to massage and kiss the breasts which allows her heart to open.

Below the belt, the “easiest” hot zone to find and stimulate is her clitoris. When she’s on her back with her legs spread, her clit is at the top of her slit, like a small button covered by a little hood. For most women, this is the most sensitive place, and it is easy for you to stimulate during foreplay – but it is not so easy to stimulate during sex.

Since most women do not orgasm from intercourse, it is important to learn how to stimulate the clitoris in foreplay.

Find her clitoris, and circle it slowly, building up speed. The clit is a highly sensitive spot on a woman’s body, and this is the easiest way to give her an orgasm (in most cases). Vary your speed, and as you see she’s approach the edge of an orgasm, talk dirty to her and don’t slow down.

More great tips on giving orgasms here

Prepare the space for the erotic breast massage by having at least 1 hour. Have some romantic music and candles, with some warm massage oil.  Take the phone off the hook and turn of mobiles.

The woman should be instructed to be present in her body and pleasure. She should breathe with the mouth open with no gaps between the in and out breath. One can ask her to breathe a little deeper than normal and breathe into the belly. The belly should rise and fall on every breath.

The breath helps maintain your lover in her body and builds up the sexual energy that will start to move through the total body.

The man should touch to please himself and not to please his lover. Touch with softness and sensitivity. Maintain total concentration in your hands and the feelings of touching the breasts. If it feels good to us it will feel really nice to our lover.

The man can also breathe in sync with his lover and remind her to breathe when she goes into a fantasy and out of her body.

Most men touch too hard and fast in any erotic massage. Touch slowly and lightly.

Imagine love coming out of your hands into her breasts. Holding her breasts is a nice way to start. Try some so light touch as a feather.

Do not worry about turning her on, that is not your job.
The breasts are the positive pole of a woman’s sexuality and need to opened before her genitals will desire you.

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1. Place a few drops of oil in the palms of your hands.

2. Massage your breasts in a large circular motion, very gently, 36 times, either inwards or outwards.

a) For an inward circle start with the hands at the centre of the chest and move them in a downward circular motion around the breasts. This inward motion is called ‘stimulation,’ and its effect is to enlarge undersized

b) For an outward smaller circle with the hands at the centre of the chest and move them in an upward circular motion around the breasts . This outward motion is called ‘dispersion,’ and it helps prevent lumps and breast cancer.

Enjoy.